DON'T
BULLY ME!
Advice for Primary Age Children
Kidscape
in association with Western
Power Distribution
Contents
and Quick Links:
FOREWORD
by Dan Norris MP 
"Bullying
is always wrong and bullies have to change"
Bullying is never
acceptable. No matter the circumstances there are no excuses. No one ever
has the right to bully another person. And bullies have to take responsibility
for the hurt they cause others. Bullying is always wrong. If you have
been bullied it is not your fault. Even if you think it is, you really
aren't to blame. The bully has the problem and they have to change their
bad behaviour.
If you have suffered, this great booklet can help stop it happening again,
while the bully faces up to the changes they have to make to stop hurting
others. Whatever you do, don't keep bullying a secret. This can seem hard
but keep telling, over and over, until the bullying stops for good.
Dan Norris MP
Member of Parliament for Wansdyke
Booklet Co-ordinator
Dan Norris MP warmly
thanks:
Western Power
Distribution for their generous sponsorship, production and distribution
of this booklet; TL
Visuals (Printers) Yate for their usual highly professional work;
Michele Elliott founder and director of Kidscape
; Richard Wyatt for his specialist input; Jill Halfpenny, Lorraine Kelly,
Lenny Henry and Emma Bunton for their kind contributions; and last but
not least, pupils at Welton Primary School, Midsomer Norton, Temple Primary
School, Keynsham and Longwell Green Primary School for providing the brilliant
drawings.
THE
STARS TALK ABOUT BULLYING
Jill Halfpenny,
'EastEnders' and the winner of 'Strictly Come Dancing', says: "Bullying
is wrong. Don't do it!"
Lorraine Kelly
says: "No one deserves to be bullied. Tell your mum or dad or a teacher.
Don't keep it a secret."
Lenny Henry
says: "Bullies aren't cool, or clever. If you're bullied, tell someone!
- a teacher or your mum and dad. But whatever you do, don't let it go
on!"
Emma Bunton
says: "If you are being bullied, make sure you talk to some-one about
it. Don't keep it to yourself! Tell a friend, a teacher or mum before
it gets out of hand."
WHAT
IS BULLYING?
When someone thinks
it's fun to make you sad or angry
THAT'S BULLYING!
If they won't stop
when you say "I've had ENOUGH!"
THAT'S BULLYING!
If they say unkind
things about you
THAT'S BULLYING!
If they won't let
anyone talk to you
THAT'S BULLYING!
If they take your
friends away and leave you all alone
THAT'S BULLYING!
If they kick you,
or punch you, or hurt you on purpose
THAT'S BULLYING!
WHY
DO BULLIES DO IT?
- Bullies may be
jealous of you
- They may feel bad
inside and want you to feel bad as well
- They may be scared
nobody likes them
- They may bully
people so no one will bully them
- They may be bullied
at home and think it is OK to bully you
- They may think
they are being clever
- They may just be
spoiled rotten brats
WHY DO THEY BULLY ME?
Bullies bully because
they have a problem. They need a victim - IT
ISN'T YOUR FAULT!
BULLIES tell us
that they like to pick on people who:
- Are quiet and gentle
and won't tell!
- Look worried and
scared
- Might blush and
go red, or cry
- Are good at
doing school work, or not good at doing school work
- Are popular or
unpopular
- Bullies say things
and call you names to make you feel bad, even if none of what they say
is true
BULLIES will find
any excuse to try to bully you!
HOW CAN I STOP THEM?
TELL your Mum
TELL your Dad
TELL your teacher
TELL every
grown-up until someone listens and helps you
TELL a friend
and ask your friend to help you tell an adult
BULLIES don't like
other people to know what they are doing!
ALWAYS TELL IF
YOU ARE BEING BULLIED!
WHAT
SHOULD I DO?
- Stand up straight
- Look the bully
in the eyes
- Walk away
without saying a word
This might make the
bully stop because he or she is bored when you don't react
If the bully continues
to bother you:
- Take a deep breath,
and say "NO!" very loudly
PRACTISE
EACH DAY
- Stand up straight,
in front of a mirror
- Look at your eyes
- make them look stern
- Say "NO"!
really loudly
Now practise things
you could say to the bully:
- "GO AWAY!"
- "LEAVE
ME ALONE!"
- "DON'T
BULLY ME!"
WHAT IF I BULLY SOMEONE?
THINK HARD!
- Nobody really wants
to be friends with a bully
- People are nice
to bullies because they are scared of them, NOT because they like them
- Think how sad the
person you have bullied is feeling
- Think how nice
it is to have friends who really like you
- Tell your teacher,
your mum or dad that you want to stop being a bully and ask for their
help
HOW
CAN I MAKE GOOD FRIENDS?
- Don't play
with people who hurt others or make them sad
- Choose friends
who are kind, who share, and who listen to you
- Be kind,
share, and listen to them, too
- If your friends
are sad, look after them and try to help them
- If you know
someone is being bullied, get help, tell an adult
FEELING GOOD
- If you are kind
- If you listen
to other people
- If you try to make
people laugh, not cry
You will be a GOOD
friend
- People will like
you
- You will feel good
- You will feel proud
of yourself
HERE ARE SOME STORIES
What do you THINK
about them?
Jennie and Olu are
playing. Anna takes Jennie away. You see Olu has been left all alone and
is crying.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
You are in the playground.
You see Tom kicking Joe. Joe is hurt. Tom won't stop.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Mark says something
unkind about Ali. Ali hears what he has said. Mark is always
saying horrible things about Ali.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Daisy is very ticklish.
Maria keeps tickling Daisy. "Stop! Stop!" she says, but Maria
won't stop. Daisy can't get away. She's getting upset and scared.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
REMEMBER
EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!
- Some of us are
tall, some small
- Some of us have
red hair; some have black or blonde hair, or no hair
- Some of us have
freckles or wear glasses or have beautiful ears or cute noses
- Some of us walk
with crutches or get around in a wheelchair
- Some of us are
good at art or sports or music or maths
- Some of us come
from different countries or dress in different ways
It would be boring
if we were all the same!
It's good to be different
NO ONE DESERVES TO BE BULLIED!
WHERE
TO GET HELP AND ADVICE
- CHILDLINE
Telephone counselling and advice service for children and young people
who are experiencing bullying or any other problem or danger.
0800 - 1111 (free 24 hours)
www.childline.org.uk
- CHILDREN'S LEGAL
CENTRE
Gives advice about law and policy affecting children and young people
in England and Wales.
0845-456-6811
(Mon-Fri 9-30am to 5-00pm)
www.childrenslegalcentre.com
- KIDSCAPE
Offers free child protection leaflets with a SAE (please use six first
class stamps) and a telephone helpline for parents, guardians or concerned
relatives of bullied or abused children. Kidscape,
2 Grosvenor Gardens, London, SW1W ODH.
020-7730-3300
Helpline for parents, carers and relatives.
08451-205-204 (local rate)
www.kidscape.org.uk
- Ask your mum, dad,
grandma, grandpa, uncle, sister or brother for help
- Talk to your teacher
or someone at school
- NATIONAL SOCIETY
FOR THE PREVENTION OF CRUELTY TO CHILDREN (NSPCC)
Helpline for anyone, including children, concerned about, involved in,
or at risk of child abuse.
0808-800-5000 (24 hours)
www.nspcc.org.uk
- PARENTLINE PLUS
Available to anyone parenting a child to talk through any concerns or
worries. Email support also available via website.
0808-800-2222 (24 hours)
www.parentlineplus.org.uk
- SAMARITANS
Helpline for anyone in distress.
Email support also available.
08457-90-90-90 (24 hours)
Email: jo@samaritans.org
Show this booklet
to your parents and ... TALK ABOUT IT!
This booklet was sponsored
by Kidscape
in association with Western
Power Distribution
Designed and printed
by TL Visuals
Limited Tel 01454 319555
Paper supplied by
James McNaughton
Paper Group who proudly support the work of Kidscape
This free 'Don't Bully
Me!' booklet has been specially written for primary aged children as they
approach secondary school. But this booklet is also a useful guide for
anyone who wants to stop young people of any age being bullied.
This is the second
booklet sponsored by Western Power Distribution and written and co-ordinated
by Dan Norris MP and Michele Elliott of Kidscape.
Their highly successful
first booklet 'Protecting Our Children - A Guide For Parents' was aimed
at promoting the safety of children.
It and the full graphic
version of this anti-bullying booklet can be downloaded free online at
www.dannorris.org.uk
or
www.kidscape.org.uk
Western
Power Distribution
© Copyright
Dan Norris/Michele Elliott 2005
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